• sparkfireswan

A&A Turn Negative Comments Into Positive Quotes | RV Living

End of Week #107


Moochdocking, Stone Lake WI


Miles traveled since last week's post = 0


Total miles traveled to date = 15,766 with trailer



Since day one it has never been a surprise to me when people come out of left field with negative comments or judgments about what Adam and I are doing and how we are choosing to live. I almost expect it - it can be a bit of a shock and goes against everything we are taught on how to live a "happy life". What surprises me the most is that usually these comments come from family members, or friends of family members and they always are a bigger indication of what that person is going through, versus what we are actually doing. I see these people as a mirror, reflecting the things they are working through onto us. I always try my best not to let the comments get to me or affect me in any way, but of course it is also to be expected that they do get to me from time to time. Sometimes I really have to work hard to remind myself that ultimately no one else's opinion about how I am living MY life matters at all. The one and only thing that matters is that Adam and I are happy and we are making our own path in life.


I'm sure there are a lot of (good) negative comments I've missed, that people have felt the need to say over the past few years, but the ones listed below are the most common ones that have come up...



A&A Turn Negative Comments Into Positive Quotes


"I don't agree with your lifestyle" = It's inspiring that you live so unconventionally!


This is a big one we get, which I never really understand, as the way we live does not directly affect anyone else. I personally feel as though if the way someone lives is not hurting them, not hurting you, not hurting others, and if it makes them happy - then so be it! Nothing else should even matter. Leave them be to live in their own way, as why on earth should be all be living the exact same anyway??


After thought and consideration on where a comment like this could come from, I decided to twist this negativity into the positivity of how amazing it truly is to do something as unconventional as what we are doing. It is an inspiring way to show people that they don't have to live life the way they have always been told to. They don't have to do what their parents did, their grandparents did, or what the kids they went to school with are doing. And no one has to pursue living in a way that only aligns with what others expect for them, versus what makes them feel happy and complete on their own. In fact, there is NO right or wrong way to live this one and only life we are granted - there is only our way, and what we choose to do with it.


"What do you even do all day" = I love the freedom you have to do what you want each day!


We unfortunately live in a society where we are expected to be on the go-go-go all the time, where resting is seen as something only for the "weak" or "lazy", and the less busy you are the less respected you are too. As well as the more things you do for yourself is somehow seen as selfish instead of necessary... Well I'm here to tell you that more hours logged running all over the place, working all the time, and doing all of these things for everyone else but yourself does not automatically translate to a good life!


It's quite common that those that think we have nothing to do all day are the same people that are doing the things they hate in life instead of more of the things they love. The amount of things to do in this world, in this country, is absolutely endless. Living fulltime on the road in nature opens up an entire new array of opportunities to learn and explore and experience things firsthand. I can't think of any one time we have been "bored" or not had anything to do, unless of course the weather was problematic for more than a day or two - but even then there is plenty to do in the rig or things to drive to.



What do we even do all day?? We explore! We hike, we adventure, we check out local businesses, we run errands, we spend time with our Bengals, we spend quality time with each other, we engage with family and friends through videos and phone calls. We do what we can each day to live it to the fullest and continuously search out something new that we have never experienced before. We LEARN. We seek out National Parks, State Parks, RV communities, beaches, mountains, deserts, and forests. We exercise, we make home cooked meals, and I spend a lot of time blogging, and working on my social media presence to share my journey and teach others about it too. We work on side hustles. We set GOALS and plan on how to get them accomplished. We LIVE. There is never an end to what we can do to fill our time, and the best part is that it is all things we love to do and that make us happy too!


"You should be working a 9-5 like me" = That's amazing that you work just to live, doing things you love, instead of living just to work like so much of society!


It seems to be, those that have the most opinions and thoughts about the way we have been working and living the past few years, are the same people who "suffered" their entire life away and now feel that everyone else should suffer too.... and that's just not something I support! A huge point of this lifestyle transition was to break AWAY from the system, not continue to support it, and for some reason that strikes a trigger point in some. It simply amazes me how people think it's completely normal to work themselves to the bone, in hopes of a few good years of retirement...


See, the thing is, the way we live is minimal. We don't need much, we don't have a lot of bills, almost zero debt, and we have spent the past 2 years doing just enough for what we do need - and that has worked for us. In the future we will continue to find ways to work smarter, never harder, as there is so much more to life than just working it away. Did you know most people will work around 50 years of their life!? And the average life expectancy is only about 78 years, meaning - if you're lucky - you've got maybe 10-15 years of "life" after work... some of which could still be challenging because of health or other reasons. No thank you, that does not sound like a quality LIFE to me! I choose to break free from the way I'm expected to live and to find ways that work for me instead.


In the age of online work and digital nomad opportunities, we will always be connected in one way or another and continue to supplement with multiple streams of income, workamping opportunities and more. I don't think we will ever again succumb to the notion that one has to kill themselves working 50 hours a week at a job they don't even like, with people they don't even like, doing work they don't even like. Does that sound like a quality life to you?! Hello no! But if you do think it sounds like a quality life than all the more power to you! That is great if you can find meaning in it and enjoy doing it - and I will be truly happy for you. But I will never allow someone to tell me that just because they live their life that way that it means I have to do it too. There are so many different ways to create happiness and fulfill your needs, that we just simply don't all have to do it the same way.



"You live in a trailer" = I admire that you have mastered living in such a tiny space!


I feel it's all too easy to twist the fact that we live in an RV and turn it into something negative associated with "trailer trash", or "living homeless". I'm sure the people that comment this way may think they mean well, and maybe they don't even realize how they are contributing to negative living situation stereotypes. But in a lot of ways I think this gives people power too, it almost makes them feel they are superior. It's as if the only things that contribute to power, and status, are things that involve THINGS - as in big houses, big cars, multiple cars, lots of "stuff", and so on. When really, I see things completely the opposite, I think that the more things you own end up owning you and there has been nothing more freeing in my life than to get rid of most everything I've owned and moved into a less than 300 square foot house on wheels.


Which brings me to my next point - my house moves! How can you get more luxurious than being able to move your home with you wherever you want to go! I've decided what people really mean when they say we live in a trailer is that they can't believe how well we have mastered the art of living in such a tiny space with barely any "stuff". They don't understand how we can live this way at all, or even with each other. They don't realize that you really don't need anything at all to make you feel happy and successful in life, because ultimately that "stuff" isn't at all what life is really about. Life is about the experiences you have, the adventure you seek, the journey you're on, and the people you're with... and no material object out there is going to give you the type of experience that real LIFE will.


RV Living


One major thing I've learned in the past few years is that as soon as you put up boundaries in your life, as soon as you start doing more for yourself and become less available for the drama and negativity from others, is the same moment that those people start to have a BIG problem with you. But that's exactly how you know those boundaries are working!


These are the kind of things that just go along with what we are doing... people are always going to have their opinion and they aren't always going to be fans of what we are doing. And that's okay! Just as anything in life, it goes both ways and there is always something to be said about whatever you are doing in life, so you might as well do what makes you the most happy! Everything else does not matter at all.



After all, it is YOUR life... not theirs.




NEXT WEEK:


I've gotten all my blog post ideas planned for the summer, now I just have to put them in an order that will work best. :) I am making progress though... and I plan to be "on time" next week to get back on schedule too, woohoo!



Amazon Storefront


I have recently become affiliated with Amazon, through the set up of my own storefront page. Here I am able to list and link all of the items I have purchased through Amazon and would recommend for various needs. I have lists set up for fulltime RVing, camping in general, traveling with cats, health and wellness, and even curly hair! Plus, as an added bonus, I will make a small commission on any items purchased through my link.


If you want to check out more of my storefront page, here is the link: Spark Fire Swan's Amazon